Hello Sabrina, I'm happy to hear that the distance between thought and awareness of the thought is getting shorter in your life. I think that the more you are able to be accepting of others (something not easy to do), the easier it becomes to react less and think more before acting. This is definitely an area I'm working on and want to get better at :) Thank you for showing up here today, it always makes me smile :) Love, -Bern

Hola Betsy, Thank you for sharing this. What you describe is true in the sense that if your mind is not clear and you think out loud, that might get you into trouble. Sometimes, though you can speak from the heart without having to process with your mind and those times are extremely valuable. I believe that the universe, God, Oneness, whatever you want to call this force, has a way of speaking through us and if we resist it, then the real essence of the message might be lost. My challenge was specifically on the lines of holding back whenever something we are saying is just plain uncool or hurtful without a true beneficial purpose. Sometimes we need to say things that are not easy to be received but others silence is the best response. Learning to know the difference between both is an art worth refining (at least for me). I hope you are having a fantastic day my friend. Love, -Bernardo

I get it! And I love those moments where things just flow...

Hey Betsy. I totally feel you and I have a suggestion. Make a distinction when you are talking to someone. Set them up by asking them, "Hey, I'm not sure what I think/feel about ____ and I could really use a sounding board to get clear. Are you available?" That way the person knows what their job is and won't be trying to figure out what you want from them. It's clear. You want them to listen. They can say yes or no. If the conversation has to do with telling someone your truth it can be REALLY helpful to talk to through the scenario with someone other than the person you are going to deliver your message to. That way when you deliver, you are clear, connected and grounded. There is no process, just you standing in your truth. People (especially men, but women too!) will have a lot easier time hearing you. Hope this helps! Love, Syndee

Dearest Syndee, You bring up some very good suggestions. Of course it takes a smart & intuitive woman like yourself to know that especially us men have a hard time distinguishing between what women really feel and what they feel "in the moment" :) Betsy, If you did not know Syndee you will ABSOLUTELY ADORE HER, she is one of the kindest and mosts insightful ladies I've had the good fortune of crossing paths with. Sending you both lots of love :) -Bern

Bern. You are SO KIND! Thank you <3 Gender is for real. I'm a student of it as much as I am a student of life itself!

Syndee, The teacher whose quote I wrote about in your blog today(David Deida) is one who really really gets this. In my mind goes a bit beyond gender and into the sexual energy of a person. Weather that is masculine or feminine, it has a very specific (and quite different) way of meeting its purpose in life. You may already know his work but if you don't you will absolutely love it. -Bern

Hey Syndee! I'm fine in person where I can read body language and hear voice intonation that give me clues as to whether or not I'm connecting. Online text is where the difficulty is! This is a very different world of communication to navigate and takes a lot of patience and skill.

I know exactly what you are talking about Betsy, written words are hard (they are for me at least). I find it incredibly easier and more fun to share in video because I know that I can convey the specific emotions I want to communicate much more easily than if I were to write them down.

Hello dearest Syndee, I once shared a post about a man named W.Mitchell who got started getting me thinking about this concept. He is an amazing human being who had 75% of his body burnt in a motorcycle accident and lost the ability to walk and both hands. He shared the importance of having a bad half-day or even better a bad-hour. The concept here is to stop the insane way of thinking that states that once your day gets off to a bad start it has to continue until the following morning. I am happy that this person in your life was able to shift his or her actions towards you because you my friend, are such a great human being and deserve the absolute best. Sending you love. -Bern

Sounds like an inspiring fella! I'm gonna check him out. I totally agree - it is all about recovery time. Not whether we find ourselves in deep water, but how quickly we realize it and swim to shore. And thank you, you are right, I do deserve to be treated well. As do we all.

:) Here is a brief intro to him http://www.yourgreatlifetv.com/reviews/how-to-jailbreak-out-of-your-self-imposed-prison/ I think you will find him truly inspiring. Thank you so much for showing up here my friend it brightened my day :) -Bern