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The courage to be you

It’s easy to suppress your deepest voice when you feel scared without fully realizing that this suppression ultimately leads to a half lived life. Today I share an experience that helped me make a decision to be more honest with myself regardless of what others might think of me.

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erinkurup
erinkurup

Hi Bern! I really enjoyed "meeting" you on Twitter earlier today. I was on my way to work and unable to explore much of your site until now. What a perfect video for me to have watched first, as a sort of intro to you and what you're about! Your smile just exudes enthusiasm and warmth.

 

I know that feeling of fear, of not wanting to share parts of yourself (sometimes even with yourself) because you're afraid of what the reaction might be. I also know how incredible it can feel when you do let that part shine and you discover it's accepted. One of my goals for my own newly launched life project, of sorts (chronicled on my site, remadebyhand.com), is to learn to be more genuine and open, starting in my posts and reflections. I've always thought of honesty and openness as blanket characteristics, not related to specific areas of one's life so much, so you've given me much to think about. You're absolutely right -- I am certainly more honest in some areas than in others. Thanks so much for sharing your reflections here :-)

yourgreatlifetv
yourgreatlifetv

@MyMiBoSo Thank you for sharing this dear friend. Sending you love Sabrina! -Bern

Sabrina Bolin
Sabrina Bolin

Oh Bern, this is an area that I've invested a lot of energy and focus toward - specifically for me, it's addressing my misperception that to be loving means to be seen and not heard. My authentic self has a voice, a strong voice that is able to lovingly express myself  and invite connection (and perhaps sometimes even a bit of criticism). Through my blog I've been exercising my "soul's voice", but I accept your challenge to take it further and create opportunities where I can speak loudly from the heart in my day to day life.

 

So much love to you my dear friend and inspiration,

 

Sabrina

yourgreatlifetv
yourgreatlifetv

@jodi_chapman Dear Jodi, thank you so much for sharing this, for commenting on my post and for in-action living this truth. Love to you!!

Jodi Chapman
Jodi Chapman

Bern,

This video was just perfect! I love that we both posted about the importance in being ourselves today - we're definitely on the same page. You're so right that it can be scary to put yourself completely out there. I have worried about this with my own blog and honestly still struggle with it. When I start to worry about how what I'm saying will be received, I know that I'm hitting a nerve and that's when it really needs to come out. The posts that I'm the most nervous about publishing are usually the ones where I'm showing my truest self, and that can be scary. But they're also the ones that people respond to - we relate to the humanness that is in each of us. So bravo to you for sharing your true soul - it's a beautiful one. Hugs to you!

yourgreatlifetv
yourgreatlifetv

@suddenlyjamie Thank you so much for sharing this Jamie You are a ray of light in my life :) <3 -Bern

yourgreatlifetv
yourgreatlifetv

@SandiAmorim :) MIl gracias Sweet Sandi Many hugs your way!

suddenlyjamie
suddenlyjamie

Hello, Bernardo. 

As always - I love these bite-sized outpourings of honesty and encouragement. 

I think there are very few people who feel able to comfortably be wholly and fully themselves in every area of their lives. 

Life doesn't make it easy for us to "let it all hang out." Too often, we need to devise and don multiple masks in order to smoothly navigate various parts of our lives - family, romantic relationships, work, social, etc. 

I used to think of myself as a chameleon - constantly adapting to my environment and the people around me so that I could always present the most pleasing and non-confrontational persona possible. It wasn't something I did consciously, per se, but I did it nonetheless. 

As I get older and especially, I think, when I became a mom, I found it easier to stand in the world as who I am. It's always a work in progress. As you know, I have a few projects simmering on the back burner in my brain that will probably surprise some people when I set them loose in the world, but each day I'm a little more comfortable with the idea of being uncomfortable. 

... and that's what it comes down to. Although it seems contradictory, sometimes "being ourselves" is not the comfortable thing. Though we should be completely at home in our skin and our souls, we are often unused to living with that level of integrity and accountability. There's a big learning curve we have to climb before we can start to feel at ease as ourselves. 

I'll admit that I'm not there yet, but I'm happy to be heading in that direction and learning each day. 

It's the adventure of a lifetime ... truly the only adventure we really have. 

Thanks, as always, for a gentle and loving reminder. 

 

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